Self Improvement is not for Sissies
“The greatest challenge in life is to learn to live at peace in the middle of chaos”
– Deepak Chopra
It takes a great deal of courage to admit that you and your life are out of control. “Out of control” can come in a mild or severe form; short term or long term. It requires summoning a great deal of courage to take steps to do something about it. An anugly thing happens to us when we feel we are victims in our life. We become angry, depressed, we blame others, feel frustrated with life, experience low self-esteem and we lose hope. Depending on the amount of time this has gone on, it could be mild or extreme. Experiencing this type of stress is often the #1 factor in many health issues.
In every moment we choose the course that we take, consciously or unconsciously. Many of us act on things in our life unconsciously a great deal of the time. We react to situations rather than making conscientious decisions. We avoid the work of thinking something through and fail to be present in the moment. For some of us, our societal communications have become “Sound Bites”, “Texts” and “Tweets”. Our attention to things sometimes wanes quickly. When we are faced with a challenge we often give in to the old messages that play in our head, give in to the fear and doubt that are prevalent at the time. We unintentionally shape our future by replaying the messages and mistakes of our past, feeding the doubt and fear. As a result, we are frequently self-impeded from moving forward.
I had a life of extremes; extreme violence, abuse, struggle, and loss as well as amazing experiences, including success, joy, and peace. Over the years, I have developed a practice of moving immediately past the erupting emotion to intentional listening as a means of survival. I later combined it with a laser focus, holding on to the root of who I am, why I am in that space and what is going on in the moment. Once I have what I believe to be sufficient information, I have learned to immediately look for possible outcomes or solutions. I always believe that in each challenge there is something better that can be achieved. This developed skill has allowed me to be very successful in several areas of my life. I have reduced my stress, discerned who and what is best to spend time with, and no longer grieve over what I should have done. More importantly, I am confident, happy and feel comfortable in my skin.
Backing off the emotion, staying focused, assessing the challenge in a clear-headed way, applying your will, then moving forward with confidence to execute a plan is a learned behavior. All changes in behavior take place first with an intention, commitment, and belief, in spite of not being able to see the end result. It is also important to surround yourself with people that support your success. Your self-esteem and personal relationships will begin to improve. It’s a process, but after several victories and celebrations, you get to love the way you feel and commit to making it a way of life. There is no going back! Are you ready for the challenge? Sign up for this Sage Wisdom Blog and life coaching tools on my website now! www.kathleenacarr.com
BE AMAZING AND CLAIM YOUR PEACE!